SHE SAID

Note: I wrote this almost four years ago. If I remember it correctly, this was written when i first said that i wanted to write a book. This was also written during a time when my best friend was throwing life lesson after lesson at me (mostly after an argument), so i decided to write them down. Something like Morrie Schwartz's "Letting Go".  I never got the chance to edit this again until now (April 22, 2012). So, without further ado...

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Staring blankly across the wall, I start to wonder why certain things had to happen in the past. Yes, I know it is all for a cause, but what cause would that be? We all needed to learn a lesson, maybe? Well, I have learned many lately.

WORDS OF WISDOM. I couldn’t have voiced things out as well as a good friend did. Actually many of I know now, I learned from her.

“STOP SAYING HOW GOOD I AM.SABIHIN MO NAMAN KUNG GAANO KA KABUTI SA KANILA.”

     Never be too busy noticing how good other people are that you totally forget the you are a good person too. You see, everybody needs a little praise once in awhile. Maybe that’s why I always praise others whenever I feel it is appropriate. We forget to do that sometimes – say a kind word – to and for others. However, she made me remember… by saying that I, too, have a good heart. And it felt good to me. So I bet, others will definitely feel the same.

“THERE’S A TIME FOR EVERYTHING.”

      Sometimes, we just have to learn how to STOP and WAIT. There are certain things that just will not happen, we cannot force to happen, and even if they do happen, they just will not work the way we want them to. Why? Because it is not yet the right time. Therefore, we learn how to wait, even if it is hard because it is when you endure that you become stronger.

“SOMETIMES OUR WORDS ARE CONTRARY TO OUR ACTIONS.”

     Mean what you say, and say what you mean. There are instances when we say certain things that are half-meant or maybe not meant at all. We say we are ok even if we are not. In this case, I say it is better to speak up and tell how we truly feel. One cannot live with a lie without a feeling of loneliness. Nevertheless, in some cases, it is better to just shut up…just like when you are about to lose your patience or your temper. When we are mad, there is a tendency that we are carried away with our emotions. Like what she said, ”Di na kailangang magbitiw ng masasakit na salita kung magkaka-ayos rin lang sa huli.” In this view, we differ. Para sa akin kasi, if there is a problem kailangan pag-usapan. And I told her that but as she said “HINDI NA AKO NAGSALITA THAT TIME KASI AYAW KONG MAGBITIW NG MGA BAGAY NA DI NAMAN DAPAT SABIHIN.” At the end, I ended up conceding to her point. Oo nga naman, hurtful things need not be said. Para kasing you are adding insult to injury.

REGRETS COME AFTER THE FACT

    We usually learn a lesson when we have already made a mistake o kapag the damage has already been done. Then, we start regretting. We fall like tons of bricks from the realization. It is crazy, but it is true. Sometimes we are too blinded by fabricated facts that we fail to see what really is happening. A mistake we often commit because we love too much, because we trust the wrong people too much. Yet, we do not know what’s fake and what is real until we get a painful bite from reality.

ANY VIRTUE COMES WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT.

    True. Right now, I am learning how to be patient and tactful at the same time. I am learning how to control my temper and impulsiveness. It is hard for it is human tendencies that I am trying to control. Totoo naman talaga. Minsan, magigising ka na lang isang araw na alam mo na yung isang bagay na dati hindi mo alam.

ANO KA? DOORMAT?

    Ok lang naman maging martyr pero sana naman, bigyan natin ng limit. Sometimes martyrdom becomes synonymous to stupidity kapag walang limitasyon. Nobody has the right to step on someone else’s shoes. More so, nobody deserves to be treated like a doormat.

WAG PUMATOL SA MGA DI DAPAT PATULAN.

     Hindi sa lahat ng oras kailangan mong lumaban. Eye for an eye; tooth for a tooth. There are some wars na you just have to shrug off for some reasons:

1.      not worth your time

2.      not worth your intelligence

3.      waste of energy

4.      di mo sila ka-level

…so wag ng patulan.

DO NOT OFFER A SHIRT IF YOU ARE NOT WEARING ONE.

     Do not say something you do not really mean. Do not offer something na hindi mo naman kayang ibigay o wala kang intention na ibigay, lalo na kung wala ka namang ganun. Imposible yung magmamahal ka ng iba pero ikaw di mo kayang mahalin sarili mo. Paano kaya yun?!